Meet Groomzilla
During wedding provisions, all eyes are on the bride-to-be. Everything has to be done her way - her ideas, her choices, her vision. It’s her particular[/spipn] day, and she deserves to be able to control how it goes. The people around her acknowledge this, so they point out that they don’t wish the bride turning into a bridezilla.
But what about the groom? Shouldn’t he be given the same amount of attention as the bride-to-be? Is there no risk of grooms morphing into a groomzilla? It’s his day too, and unless if he has married and divorced three times, he will go endure the same jitters as the bride. Well, that and the reality that he has to deal with a frazzled out bride.
If you are a groom-to-be worrying over your bride-to-be-bridezilla, there are a few things you can make to maintain the peace and your sanity until the wedding day. Of course, custom calls for you to pay attention to what the bride wants. But this doesn’t mean that you allow her to have pink as your wedding theme when it practically hurts your eyes. I’m certain she wouldn’t want you choices, be prepared to give way to some of her ideas.
Let your bride know what you want. Share your ideas so that you both arrive at a compromise - from deciding on cheap groomsmen gifts to the caterer and the florist. Tell your bride if you prefer giving out a flask, or a cigar flask as favors to the guys, the kind of food you want served, and if you like to, the kind of flowers you like. Or, you can divide the task both ways - you decide on the groomsmen stuff, while she picks the florists, and then the two of you can work on the caterer. Seems reasonable enough, right?
Your wedding day is not concerning just you or your bride - it’s regarding the two of you. So be certain you reach some sort of understanding when deciding decisions about your wedding details. Ideally, this should be established before any of your family members become involved in the preparation. Otherwise, planning for your wedding will be more complicated than it should be.
If you’re not comfortable with so many people making decisions on what’s supposed to be an intimate day for the two of you, let your bride know. That’s really the important thing - communication. You should keep the lines clear, and you also have to learn how to listen, as well as share your ideas. Keep this in mind, and you won’t be turning into a groomzilla, and neither will your bride turn become the feared bridezilla.
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